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The Question Men Ask Every Int. Women’s Day

Written By Maddy Crehan

Next Tuesday is my favourite day of the whole damn year. Yep, you guessed it – it’s International Women’s Day (March 8th) – the day we get to celebrate all the amazing achievements and general awesomeness of the amazing women and girls in our lives, while also continuing the fight for gender equity. It’s so exciting. But what I’m not excited about is the onslaught of anti-feminists asking the ever predictable question, “Why isn’t there an International Men’s Day??” *queue eye roll*


My default response: “Every day is International Men’s Day based on celebrating, supporting, idolising and listening to (mostly white) men who get more pay, power and privilege than women”. But the more simple response is “There is, it’s on November 19th. Google it.”

International Men’s Day is focussed on men’s and boy’s health, improving gender relations, promoting gender equality, and highlighting positive male role models. All of these objectives are wonderful, and I think that it’s great that we have a day to promote them specifically.

The problem is that the majority of people who take to Twitter or Facebook or wherever pleading for a day dedicated to men, are not advocating for the male population, they are simply attempting to silence women. This is clear due to the fact that they obviously don’t care about International Men’s Day enough to check if one already exists first. The only fault these boneheads can find with International Women’s Day isn’t not even true. Which is kinda sad.

not even little bit true

There are many different issues that affect both men and women in different ways. But the suggestion that women’s issues are irrelevant because men too face gendered problems is ludicrous. While it’s true that men also experience violence, that doesn’t mean that violence against women doesn’t matter or that violence against women doesn’t happen on a much larger scale. As I said, both men and women experience social issues, but stating this doesn’t help the conversation progress, it just derails it. And YES both men and women have international days of recognition, designed to raise awareness and address these issues.

This type of argument is mirrored in the #NotAllMen phenomenon. Of course #NotAllMen are violent or sexist, but #YesAllWomen have to constantly navigate their way through a misogynistic and patriarchal society. We know not all men are perpetrators of sexism, but those who choose to derail conversations about women’s issues by bringing up entirely irrelevant male issues, reveal their true sexist beliefs. It’s unnecessarily defensive and it doesn’t further the conversation whatsoever.

Instead of immediately crying #NotAllMen, why not listen to women and reflect on the #SomeMen who are the problem, and work together for an equal future? Instead of asking inane questions about International Men’s Day on International Women’s Day, why not google it first? You won’t look so foolish and I won’t have to lose my patience with you. Win/win!

British comedian, Richard Herring, has spent the last two International Women’s Days individually responding to tweets posted on March 8th asking about International Men’s Day, and it is as hilarious as it is frustrating. Here are some of my favourites:

richard herringRichard K Herring‏@Herring1967
It’s on November 19th. AHA! RT @JappyLemon: Pretty sexist how there’s no international men’s day… AHA!

richard herringRichard K Herring‏@Herring1967
November 19 RT @StoopidWeazel: when’s international men’s day? Doesn’t seem fair just to have international women’s day. Equality & all that

richard herringRichard K Herring ‎@Herring1967
It’s November 19. No uproar RT @ddannywilson: Imagine the uproar if there was even a mention of an “international mens day”

richard herringRichard K Herring ‎@Herring1967
there is 1, nov 19 and they don’care RT @mChaaya1017: Ohhhhh but if there was ever “Int Men’s Day” millions of females protesting against it

richard herringRichard K Herring ‎@Herring1967
Good point! Apart from IMD being on Nov 19 RT @Eli__Koch: Why is there an international women’s day but no international men’s day?#meninism

richard herringRichard K Herring ‎@Herring1967
There is 1, Nov minds lost RT @OscarCampeezy: Let there be an Int Men’s day and all society would lose their mind

Yaaaaaassssssssssss! I love this almost as much as I hate now necessary it is. Last year, Herring tweeted “I do this so the rest of you can spend your day celebrating women. So please make my sacrifice worthwhile.”

So, on that note, make sure you take the time next Tuesday so celebrate all the incredible women around you – your mothers, your sisters, your friends, your teachers, your idols. International Women’s Day is a time to reflect on how far we have come in the fight for gender equity, and how far we still have to go. The significance of March 8th is far too valuable to be tarnished by that annoying question of “But when’s Intentional Men’s Day?”. But in case you missed the memo – it’s November 19th.





Maddy Crehan

Maddy regularly writes for Rosie, and is passionate about music, history, art and gender equality.


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